You may be thinking that the reason your ex boyfriend dumped you was because he is no longer in love with you, but that is probably not the case. However, if you make too many mistakes at this time, he could be gone for good. Whether you get your ex back or not will likely be decided by the way you approach the problem, that’s why doing the things that will pull him back instead of pushing him any farther away is of utmost importance.
Doing something when you are upset will usually lead to a mistake, so you have to think before you act or speak. Right now you want to fight the breakup and make your ex boyfriend see that he made a mistake. However he is in no mood to listen to what you have to say and that’s why he keeps rejecting you. But you can make him see his mistake without talking to him or having any contact with your ex just by using male psychology to shape his thinking.
First of all you need to get over your feeling of humiliation and desperation. You may think your ex boyfriend is out looking for a new girlfriend, but chances are he is as afraid of losing you as you are afraid of losing him. The difference is that as a man he won’t admit that he messed up by dumping you and as long as you try to force him to admit his mistake your ex boyfriend will be stubborn.
All of this could have you a little confused, but that is because you don’t think the way he does. You are willing to do anything, including losing your dignity to get your ex back. However, your ex boyfriend has a lot of ego and pride that you have to find a way to get around. This requires you to know what pushes his emotional hot buttons. To do that you only have to look back at the beginning of your relationship.
You already knew what drove a man crazy for you and how to push his hot buttons when your ex boyfriend first showed an interest in you. You didn’t try to talk to him then or beg him to love you. You knew how to use male psychology then, but for some reason when you got dumped you lost your natural instincts. To pull him back, you have to use the same tactics that pulled him to you before.
Stop thinking that this situation is different. He is the same man that he was back at the beginning. All you have to do is make him think you don’t want him anymore and his attitude will change almost immediately. He didn’t recognize the woman he loved when you were chasing and begging him. But once you show him you can accept the breakup and he won’t be able to reject you anymore he will no longer be in control.
When he starts to wonder why you are content to move on without him, he will feel rejected by you. The fact that your feelings for him have changed will gnaw at him. The feeling that he can’t have you anymore will make his desire for you hit an all time high. By showing that you can live without him, your ex boyfriend will feel that he can’t live without you and begin chasing you again.
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