Your boyfriend has ended what you thought would be a happy and lasting relationship. It all happened so sudden that you are still stunned. Although you might still be stunned, you realize you have to get him back before he finds someone else. Thinking of the man you love in another woman’s arms makes you desperate and you start doing all of the wrong things.
You call your ex boyfriend night and day, you send emails and text messages telling him how much you love him and can’t live without him. This makes him ignore you even more and you become more desperate. You are on merry-go-round and you don’t know what to do next. The answer to that is – you have to let him go. He can’t ignore you if you are not around.
When you find the courage to walk away from your ex boyfriend, you will be on the road to getting your ex back. By chasing him, you have been in a push – pull situation. You have been pushing him and he has been pulling away. By walking away and ignoring your ex, you can change everything around. Your ex boyfriend will wonder why you stopped trying to get him back and start pushing instead of pulling.
Men’s emotions work largely on ego and pride. As long as you were crying and begging him to love you, you are feeding that ego and pride. But if you suddenly stop feeding his ego, you will be turning his emotions around. You will get inside his head and your ex boyfriend will begin to wonder if you have another guy. This will start pushing his emotional hot buttons in the right way.
One of the most important things, is to keep yourself busy. You will be tempted to send him just one little text message and if you do, you will ruin everything. Right now you are as obsessed with your ex boyfriend as an alcoholic is with booze. One little slip and you will be back crying and begging again. So, spend time with your family and hang out with your friends, anything to keep your mind off your ex.
You can’t be too anxious either. Your ex boyfriend won’t come running back the minute you begin to ignore him. He needs time to see that you are serious and see what his life without you is like. Then he will start remembering the things he liked about you and wonder if dumping you was a good idea. When he begins to miss you, he will wonder if you have found someone else and the cycle will be complete.
First you might hear from your friends that he has been asking about you and then he might send you an email or text. Don’t get too excited. If you answer right away he will think you have been playing a game and begin to ignore you again. You have to use male psychology to make him work at getting you back. The harder he has to work, the less likely he will be to ever dump you again.