It hurts really bad and you don’t know who to turn to or what to do. Your heart tells you one thing and your head tells you another.You are scared and confused and maybe embarrassed. But you have a right to have these feelings if your boyfriend has broken up with you. However the trouble with having these feelings is – every one of them is keeping you from getting your ex boyfriend back.
As long as you have these feelings, your ex boyfriend will be in control. He will be able to sit back and play his own little game with you and feed his ego. Having a lovely girl like you run after him crying and begging for his love is probably a new experience for him and he likes it. As long as he can keep you this way, he doesn’t have to worry about losing you.
Your ex can go out and date other women, and know that if things don’t work out for him, you will be there and he can have you back anytime he chooses. You become a safety net, a backup girlfriend and you will never get him back completely. He might call you now and then and even take you on an occasional date, but that will be to keep you on the hook.
The only way to get back the man who got away is to make him miss you and regret the breakup. The only way to do that is to let him go. He cannot possibly miss you as long as you are constantly around, so you have to make yourself scarce. You should be going out with friends and having a good time, instead of sitting around moping or trying to get your ex boyfriend to talk to you.
Once you cut the ties to your ex boyfriend, his attitude will change in a hurry. When he no longer knows you are sitting around waiting for him, he will realize he has lost his safety net. hearing of you being out having a good time will make him see he could be losing you. He will no longer feel in control, but the biggest change will be when he realizes he misses you.
When he begins feeling unsure of being able to get you back, your ex will feel the control slipping away from him. That is when he will begin to regret the breakup and kick himself for thinking he could have you and play around too. Another part of his problem will be with his pride. He will be afraid his buddies will hear about you being out having fun and think that you might have dumped him.
When you let your ex boyfriend go and seem to be moving on, you will be pushing his emotional hot buttons. You will be taking something away from him and male psychology tells you – men always want what they can’t have. He will start having the same feelings of being scared, confused and embarrassed as you were having and realize he will have to get you back.