The greatest day of your life was the day you were married. You were filled with hope for the future and the joy of loving and being loved was amazing. But, lately you have noticed changes in you husband’s attitude toward you and it makes you wonder if he is thinking of leaving you. Your next thought is what to do if your husband wants out.
The reason you begin having these thoughts could be that he seems to find other things to do and is spending less time at home. When he is home, he does not share things with you the way he used to. He parks himself in front of the television and you are almost completely ignored. Some of his change in behavior could be the natural settling in that a marriage takes on after the first glow has worn off.
As a marriage matures, there are bound to be changes in both of your personalities. This is due to becoming mature and the love is not as spontaneous, but it is still just as deep. Most men take for granted that his wife knows he loves her and does not feel that constantly showing it is necessary. Women, being more romantic by nature, sometimes takes this as the husband pulling away from her. It is easy to become concerned when these things happen, but they might not be a reason of concern at all.
You are wise to be on the alert because there are signs that will tell you that your marriage is in trouble and you need to act before it falls apart.
One sign that your husband wants out is that he seems not to be listening when you tell him about things that are affecting your life and the family. If you feel he is not concerned, this is a pretty clear sign that he is no longer interested in the marriage. If things were right in the marriage, he would be anxious to hear about your day and share his with you.
Another clear sign your husband wants out is when he constantly picks an argument with you. What he is trying to do is force you to become tired of bickering and break up with him. This will relieve him of the guilt.
You will know that your husband’s feelings toward you have changed when he ceases to become involved with normal family events. He will be too busy to go on the family vacation and urge you and the children to go have fun without him. He may get a sudden call to go to the office during a birthday celebration. If he is falling out of love with you, this is his way of getting the family used to being without him when he finally makes the break. If you are seeing any or all of these signs in your marriage, you need to take quick action to put things back on the right track and save your marriage.
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