A breakup can show the difference in men and women to a higher degree than nearly any other part of a relationship. As a woman, you miss your man and your emotions overwhelm you and you have to let him know how you feel. On the other hand, your ex boyfriend may miss you , but he will never let you know it. That is why he refuses to take your phone calls or answer your text.
Having an ex who ignores your every attempt to communicate with him can cause you to have many emotions. You might be hurt and discouraged or you might feel so much anger that you think of seeking revenge. This is normal and you can’t help having these feelings, however you have to be careful of how you handle his refusal to communicate or it can ruin any future you might have together.
For one thing, you can’t let your ex boyfriend’s ignoring you cause you to make foolish mistakes. You cannot let him see that he is hurting you. The best thing you can do is to get a grip on your emotions and think before you act. If you keep sending him text and telling him of your love and how you miss him, you will be playing his game. He wants to know you still love him because it tells him you will be there anytime he is ready for you.
Think of what would happen if you don’t text him. You might think that would make him forget you, but if he still is in love with you the opposite will happen. He will begin to wonder what happened to you and why you have started to ignore him. It will also give you a chance to get your emotions under control. As long as you keep sending text, you will be waiting for his answer. When no answer comes you feel hurt and desperate. But, if you aren’t expecting a text you won’t be disappointed.
This will take some discipline on your part, but if you want your ex back, you will have to stop contacting him. The best way to do this is to focus on yourself. You have a life of your own that is separate from your ex boyfriend. You have family and friends who will cheer you up and give you the support you need. But, you can’t continually be talking to them about your ex boyfriend.
Find other things to occupy your time. One of the best ways to take your mind off your troubles is by helping others. There are many people today that are hungry and homeless. You can work as a volunteer helping these people and you will soon find that you are not as desperate to get your ex back as you thought. This doesn’t mean that you won’t want him back, but it will allow you to take an emotional break.
When you stop calling and sending text, your ex will have time to miss you and that can be the key to getting your ex back. Once your ex begins to miss you, he will realize how much he still loves you. If you are not contacting him, he will soon contact you and want to be part of your life again.