After a breakup, the hardest thing to do is to stay away from your ex boyfriend. Your head may tell you to let him settle down before you try to talk to him, but you follow tour heart. This is only natural because your emotions are running at an all time high. Feeling you might lose him for good makes you want to stay in contact with him. This will make him pull farther away and make you feel more hurt and rejection.
That is why the actions you take immediately following a breakup is so crucial. If he still wanted to be with you, he would not have broken up with you. That may be pretty simple, but if you are thinking with your heart instead of your head, it might be hard to grasp. Feeling you have lost the love of your life is making you desperate. On the other hand, you are telling your man that you cannot live without him and that gives him complete control over the situation. The way to pull him back into your arms is by making him feel he has lost you.
That is where the no contact rule comes into play. If you stop having any contact with your ex boyfriend for at least a month, you will see him change his attitude toward you completely. The fact that he broke up with you does not mean he no longer loves you. Most men have big egos and if something you did or said bruised his ego, he run off to pout for a while. The best thing to do when a man wants to pout is to let him pout and stay as far away from him as possible. He just needs time and distance to realize that you are the best thing that ever happened to him.
By having no contact with him, you will be showing him that you can live without him. By doing that, he will not be so quick to run off as soon as something bothers him. Start ignoring him and occupying your life with other people and activities. Spend time with your family and friends and take up a hobby or some night classes. You need to keep busy and do not let your mind dwell on your ex boyfriend. When he sees how well you are living your life without him, he will begin to miss you. Once he starts to miss you, the control of the situation will be shifting to you. He will be the one wanting his ex back and your ex boyfriend will be contacting you.