When your boyfriend tells you he needs space, it is as if he has pressed a button in your head and suddenly you go blank. After he is gone, you try to think of what was said after that, but it all seems like a bad dream. You remember crying and screaming at him, but you cannot remember exactly what you said. Now you have the urge to call him and tell him you are sorry for whatever you said. That is not a good idea. Chances are the minute you hear his voice you will start crying and pleading again. He will probably hang up on you and never want to hear from you again. When your boyfriend needs space but you still love him, you need a plan to get your ex boyfriend back.
The first thing you need to do is accept the fact that for now he is no longer your boyfriend. If you and a girlfriend had a spat and she went off in a huff, you would leave her alone until she got over it. That is the way you should deal with this situation with your boyfriend. Just hold your head up and go about your life. The breakup need not be final, unless you continue to provoke him to the point that he loses respect for you. Think of how you were before you met him. During your relationship you probably stopped doing some of the things you enjoyed.
If you had a hobby, take it up again or start a new one. You may have relatives and friends that you have been neglecting. Pay them a visit and you will be immediately cheered up when you see how glad they are to see you. Their support will also work wonders for your self confidence. You might have been making your ex boyfriend the center of your life and exerting all of your attention and affection on him. This might have caused your boyfriend to need space. He might have felt smothered, or he could have started taking you for granted and thought he could go out and check some other activities and you would be sitting by the phone waiting for him to call.
This is why it is so important not to have any contact with him at all for several weeks. Let him see what his life is like without you. He has probably become just as accustomed to having you around as you are to having him in your life. Soon he will begin to miss you and see that he might have given up the best thing that ever happened to him. Since he has not heard from you he will begin to wonder if you have found someone else, and it is this fear of losing you that will bring your ex back.
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