The Best Way
Save Marriage
What is the best way to save marriage? Actually
there is more than one and all it takes is some calm
everyday common sense. The mystery to me is why people don't
give them a try. It's not expensive or it doesn't require a lot
of effort. So if you really want to save your
marriage, why wouldn't you be willing to try anything?
Here are some things that will work if you give them an honest
effort.
Stop being too sensitive. If your partner makes a critical
remark, don't jump on it and start an argument. Let it slide.
Always being defensive and easily hurt are a sure way of
causing trouble in you. By not taking offense and letting a few
remarks go unanswered, the other party feels ashamed to have
said the remark. The next time you make a remark that might be
taken as hurtful, your mate might surprise you by lettig it
slide
The best way to save marriage is for you to
be the one to start using this procedure. It takes two to argue
and if you refuse to be a part of the argument, there is not
much fuel to keep it going. This can sometimes cause your
partner to take a look at the way they are acting and join you
in the peace movement.
You don't have to be right everytime. The little things that
in the end don't count for much is the cause of most problems.
When you look back later on most bickering, you see how silly
and meaningless it was. The best way to save marriage is to not
sweat the small things. If your partner thinks a movie or t. v.
show was good and you didn't, let them have their opinion.
After all, what difference does it make?
Remember when you were dating and everything was new and
exciting. Your partner could do no wrong in your eyes. You
always tried to be interesting and in a good mood. But, after
the dating period and the settling in begins, things become
routine and humdrum. We let the magic slip away and stop
dating. This is when the trouble begins. You feel you can say
things and find fault with your mate that you never would have
thought of doing when you were dating.
The best way to save marriage is to turn a
new page and start dating again, or at least doing the things
you did when you were dating. Be interesting and interested
again. What attracted you to this person and what attracted
them to you?
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